How to be More Self-Compassionate and why it's important
WebMD stated, according to a study, 96% of adults they say engage in regular internal dialogue. Self-talk comes naturally to us, so we almost feel as if it’s an automatic occurrence and we don’t have control over it (happening to us rather than for us).
There are a few reasons for this…
Life feels like it gets busy, to the point where we’re too pre-occupied to actually care; we generally remain on cruise-control as we speed through it - until one day we awaken to a growing feeling that something is wrong. We tell ourselves we are falling behind, yet somehow feel burnt out from all the effort exerted, all while others are seemingly fast-tracking and blowing right by us.
When these thoughts arise, we can easily get caught in self-blame, pity, or loathing and in turn engage in self-criticism; we think we are not doing enough or that we are simply not good enough. Moments like these are crucial, because if we comfort ourselves rather than criticize, we can learn to move past these temporary moments where we get stuck in negativity. Much like a loving parent who nurtures a child who’s just fallen off a bike, we must learn to be there for ourselves in support of our goals and aspirations. There are imminent dangers when the self-critic dominates our internal dialogue (as it can lead us to believe things about ourselves/our environment that aren’t true, which dictates how we show up in the world). Conversely, developing a compassionate internal voice is imperative to success as it emboldens us to look paste our failures and overcome things that are challenging to us. These feelings are not to be ignored or avoided, but to be honored and cared for.
Join me on a journey of exploration of thoughts and the freedom that awaits you when you mindfully observe how you associate to your thoughts & the narrative you weave.